Hey! Want to be top dog in your field? So do I. That’s why I sometimes take sneak peeks at friends’ statistics, like the number of blog subscribers or friends on Facebook they’ve got. I ask myself, How do I measure up?
John Maxwell, international leadership expert, speaker, and author, says in The 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth, “What happens when you compare yourself to others? Usually it’s one of two things: either you perceive the other person to be far ahead of you and you feel discouraged, or you perceive yourself to be better than the other person, and you become proud. Neither of those is good for you, and neither will help you grow.
“Comparing yourself to others is really just a needless distraction. The only one you should compare yourself to is you. Your mission is to become better today than you were yesterday. You do that by focusing on what you can do today to improve and grow. Do that enough, and if you look back and compare the you of weeks, months, or years ago to the you of today, you should be greatly encouraged by your progress.”
How do you win at the comparison game? Compare yourself to your own personal best. In recent months, I’ve decided to quit comparing myself to 13-million-book-selling authors like John Maxwell (whom I truly respect and admire). Instead I’m saying, “I’m okay with where I’m at. Maybe in an emerging, faltering-but-enjoying-the-Holy-Spirit-ride sort of way.”
The Apostle Paul put it this way: For by the grace given me I say to every one of you: Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the faith God has distributed to each of you. (Romans 12:3, NIV)
Friend, God has a unique calling for you in the community where He’s placed you. He loves it when you set aside your insecurities and serve Him with confidence using the natural talents and spiritual gifts He’s given you. Whether you’re serving him in a high-profile capacity or behind the scenes, God’s eager to activate great things through you.
Friend, what are you the best at? What’s unique about the way you do it?