Improve your health with kind self-talk Part 2

Written by on January 30, 2013

Woman_looking_in_a_mirror“I can’t believe I exploded like that!” I said to myself last weekend. I felt frustrated and trapped in a situation. Then when I got home, I blew my top at Tim. Afterward, I winced. “Yikes! Not again!”

We all have moments when the pressure cooker builds up so much, something needs to give. The not-so-good news is that anger is hurtful to ourselves and others.

But the good news is our self-dialogue can be changed. Our thoughts steer our emotions. Our emotions fuel our response to events. So it’s crucial the dialogues we hold with ourselves are affirming.

Here are some tips on self-talk:

Studies show when you call something “difficult,” “unfair,” or a “problem,” it becomes more stressful to deal with. Instead, say, “Now here is a challenge.” Your mind will perceive it as a positive effort lying ahead.

Tell yourself, “Here’s a reward for trying.” When I submit articles to periodicals, most are rejected. I just got my twentieth article accepted. But along the way were many “no’s.” I periodically treat myself to a muffin or a new book. “Hey, good job getting up the courage to send those stories in,” I say.

The ratio of positive to positive to negative comments needs to be 5:1 for a relationship to grow. That includes our relationship with ourselves. “I might have blown it, but here are five things I got right.”

Tell yourself, “I can do even this through Christ who gives me strength.” We obeyed. We took the next step. “God’s in charge of the outcome here.”

When dealing with an especially painful failure, say, “Though this has been tough, I refuse to judge myself. I forgive myself.” In the rich loam of affirmation, bitter root judgments can’t take hold.

The enemy hates the word “resilient.” Just when he thought you were discouraged, you bounce back! Determine to say, “I’m taking this one step at a time. Today I made a face plant. But with God in this, I declare I’m resilient!” 

What self-declaration are you making today?


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  1. Paul Sohn   On   January 31, 2013 at 9:53 pm

    You’re spot on Lynn. Being resilient and framing your life with positive, affirming self-talk is imperative in life.

    It often baffles me when I listen to quotes like this from Thomas Edison, a follower of Jesus: “I have not failed 10,000 times. I have found 10,000 ways that don’t work.” I mean…where does this attitude come from? His hope, unlike others, were not from the flesh but from Him who offers us eternal hope. His relentless effort ultimately paid off.

    Thanks for reminding me to know that I am the son of God in whom I have all the self-worth I need to live this life.

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