I push three-year-old Andy in a red Target shopping cart through the aisles of back-to-school sales bins one August morning. I let him pick out his favorite crayons, markers, and paints, and he drops them in the cart on top of construction paper and glue sticks. “Can we get Skittles, too?” he asks with big eyes. Look at this kid. Could you turn him down?
But it’s been twenty years and today instead of markers, you’ll find Andy shopping electronics for smartphone accessories. He’s got a Toshiba laptop and a bachelor’s in Japanese. This fall he returns to Portland State University to begin coursework for a degree in computer science.
When the children were preschoolers, they filled our home with singing, dancing, and laughter. (Perhaps I’ll do a future blog post on the Hare Shop Quartet.) But Andy’s working hard toward his future career. Today Ben, twenty-five, and his lovely wife, Jill, are expecting their first baby at any moment. Emily’s a sophomore at Mount Hood Community College.
All three adult kids are mature at reasoning. Creating. Dreaming. When I pray for them, I pray bigger, wiser, dynamic prayers for these men and woman.
Our relationships need to be redefined every two or three years. When we ask, our heavenly Father will show us our family’s identity in terms of present-future. As we pray, the Holy Spirit will show us their leadership skills as they surface. God empowers us to speak words of strength and life into our families. He grows them and their mindsets expand. They flourish as their future maturity is affirmed.
Want to know when loving the kids into their destinies is the toughest for me? When I’m resentful and unforgiving. But as I spend time with Christ, He gently shows me my pride and tells me to humble myself, and the words and the timing in which to apologize. After I do, my encouragement springs back to life.
And, though I want to be a bigger-than-life giant of the faith, I love that Father God sees me as His growing daughter and speaks present-future over me, too. In communion with Him, I am slowly learning how to agree with Him in the process. He no longer sees me as I was two years ago. He dreams forward.
Who is your family becoming?
In which family member(s) do you see growth?
How might you tell them?