How can I forgive myself?

Written by on August 30, 2012

I attended the Oregon Christian Writers’ summer conference in Turner, Oregon two weeks ago. That week, I felt God lean over and whisper, “I want you to write a book about self-forgiveness.”  This was confirmed several times that week.

Do you ever have a tough time forgiving yourself?  It’s my number one battle! What about self-talk? Like me, do you wrestle with insecurity and self-nonacceptance?

I invite you to share questions, struggles, and personal thoughts on forgiving yourself.  With your permission, some of your thoughts may appear in future blog posts.   Leave a comment here or email me at:

Can’t wait to hear from you!

Praying the peace of Christ over your day,







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  1. Bonnie Keller   On   August 31, 2012 at 4:29 am

    Hi Lynn,

    For me it was more of a struggle with negative thoughts about myself. When I use to take aerobics, would have a good time. I would hoot and yahoo it all the way! Untill one day one of the owners of the club, that also taught aerobics herself, asked me if I would ever consider teaching it/?? Wow, nooo way I thought.
    Well she put the idea in my head. I looked around later a saw that another woman I knew there was going for her certification. Then I said to myself, if she could do it I could too!
    I struggled for a while, teaching. I would get nervous (understandable)before class. After awhile, I didn’t won’t to
    teach because I was Compairing myself to other instructors. My inter thoughts were, all negative– Your not good enough,not creative enough, bla, bla, bla!
    It wasn’t untill I changed my thoughts to positive and I said, I’am going to have fun, and so will they! Whoop, Whoop!
    So never compair yourself with anyone else! God made you special just the way you are! And we are His!
    Remember, we are our own worst knightmare. Get over it, know that you are loved, special and unique!

    God Bless you all, Bon

  2. Sheila   On   September 5, 2012 at 9:21 pm

    Hi Lynn. I’m learning that Forgiveness is a choice, a verb, something we do because God asks us to – because he knows it’s necessary for us to be able to truly heal. I am learning that forgiving myself is just as important as forgiving others. I sent you an email!

    • Lynn Hare   On   September 9, 2012 at 6:03 pm

      Sheila, I love what you said – forgiving is a form of obedience to God. Yes, indeed we need to forgive to be able to truly heal. My own seasons of forgiveness had significant upgrades when I forgave myself. The freedom was, and is, a crazy-joy-filled thing.

  3. jeannie   On   September 8, 2012 at 2:52 pm

    look forward to your book on self-forgiveness Lynn. Would love to hear
    about the conference in Turner. Thanks Jeannie
    enjoyed Bon s comments too.

    • Lynn Hare   On   September 9, 2012 at 5:56 pm

      Jeannie, thanks for your comment. Let me know if you have any suggestions for blog posts on self-forgiveness. Thanks! I love you!

  4. Bonnie Keller   On   September 13, 2012 at 9:45 am

    It is so important to forgive ourselves as well as others because Jesus forgave us.

    We have to know, no one is better then the other. We all fall short. We are all in the same boat.

    The healing begins when there is forgiveness and when you help someone else gives tremendous healing for you as well as the other person.

    • Lynn Hare   On   September 13, 2012 at 12:44 pm

      Bonnie, so true! Isn’t it cool that when we pray for others and help them, that God’s current flows through us in the process? “He who refreshes others will himself be refreshed.” (Prov. 11:25)

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