Hitting the reset button on self-talk Part 1

Written by on September 6, 2012

Flibbertigibbet! I exclaimed.  (Yes, I can sometimes be flighty and scatter-brained.) Out of the washing machine, I pulled a T-shirt and some underwear, formerly white, and held them up next to the cherry-red blouse they were washed with. Now they were a bright rosy-pink. Yikes, I’ve done it again! I’m so stupid! I thought.

Have you ever wrestled with self-talk? I sure do! When I spend time with friends and family, it’s my goal to encourage them, build them up, leave them feeling like a million dollars. “Stellar, exemplary, outstanding! Brilliant!” I say. Would I ever call one of them a name? No way. Not on your life. But somehow, phrases like “terrible mom” and “idiot” creep into conversations I have with myself.

And it’s not just pink underwear that bothers me. For a long time, I dreamed of becoming a full-time classroom teacher. But after pursuing many prospects, and dealing with debilitating cycles of fibromyalgia, I finally came to grips with reality – a career in the classroom wasn’t meant for me. “I must be a rotten teacher. See – that school didn’t hire me, either,” I said after twelve interviews in two years.

“Holy Spirit,” I asked hundreds of times, “How do I need to speak to myself?”

How do you speak to yourself in moments of relentless frustration? What helps you?  What are common obstacles?

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  1. Bonnie Keller   On   September 10, 2012 at 8:58 am

    I”am right there with you! Isn’t it always true, WE are our own worst enemy!
    You’re funny with the pink under clothing. I’ve done that a few times myself!
    I too, want to be a positive force in the lives of others, but, oh how quick I am with the negative talk in my mind.

    What is good for the goose is good for the gander! God does not make junk!

    When we think better of ourselves, we will get more positive results!

    We have to give ourselves positive self talk. The more negative talk we give ourselves, we come to believe it.
    If you believe it, you can achieve it!

    When I would teach young kids how to swim. I would praise them, “look how good you are doing” “what a great kicker you are.” Even if they were not doing anything. They start believing they are wonderful!
    Now, everyone say you are the bomb!
    YOU ROCK< and YOU RULE!!
    Yes, you can, and you will do ANYTHING you set your mind to do!!

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