Forgive Yourself: A Fresh View of Your Timeline

Written by on March 19, 2018

Does the timeline of your life rolls up its sleeves and jeer, “You are sooo behind!”?

Maybe it announces, “You should have made a name for yourself by now!”  Does the chiming curmudgeon clock in your heart wag a shaming finger at you, asking where you’ve been?

I turned 59 last month and tried to push down that old codger. I asked myself, “Where are all those books I planned to write?  Why haven’t I been to Australia yet? I wish I had more money. I wish I had a dog.” Woof!

Thursday. 2:08 pm – School dismissal. I rushed a class of fourth graders out to the bus area, running six minutes late. I felt a surge of panic as the kids raced to their buses. How did we fall behind? I took off my glasses and scrubbed my eyes with a shaky fist.   

The Holy Spirit replied, “It’s time to throw the idols of achievement, perfectionism, and superhero stuff out the window.”

Punctuality was everything in my childhood. To be early was to be on time. To be on time was to be late. To be late was to land in the doghouse. Today, I work as a substitute teacher in schools, where everything is precisely timed by a central school clock. You can’t let the kids out to recess three minutes early. There’s no playground supervisor. You can’t dismiss them three minutes after the buses leave. They need a ride home.

But the Holy Spirit whispers, “I’m not in a hurry. You haven’t missed the bus. I’m not worried about you taking too long. Take as much time as you need, girl. I know you intimately. It’s okay that you’re still figuring this thing it out.

“Forgive yourself. Let it go. You haven’t messed up your destiny. That thought is from the accuser. My daughter, you’re in a good position. My promises are intact. Seek My definition of success.

“You’ve got hope and a future. You can’t mess up My sovereign will. Nothing has disqualified you from My unconditional acceptance. Nothing.

“I’m redeeming the time.

“Whenever you see a wall calendar, clock, digital time app, or hear a timer go off, allow joy to rise up, because time is in My hands. I see the beginning from the end. I live in you, and so do My purposes.”

The Lord exists in time and above time. One of His nicknames is “God Who Sees”—meaning that He doesn’t miss a thing that happens. He can open up a seat on a plane flight precisely when you need it. He’s the “Ancient of Days,” and can see the thread of time floating in the space of eternity all at once.

God has immediate access to all our lives—ongoing and continuous—past, present, and future. He forgives us every sin and error. So we can forgive ourselves.

God’s timing, like His will, is good and pleasing and perfect.

Our brilliant Redeemer wants us to be wise as we view circumstances through His eyes. When we visit our past with regret, we’re taking our eyes off Him. The Apostle Paul says that we need to walk with caution and wisdom, redeeming the time. We need to fall into step with our Redeemer, recognizing His ability to make things right. He says that God wants us to “walk in wisdom toward them that are without, redeeming the time” (Colossians 4:5).  We can get in step with our Redeemer.

“When you’re in sync with Me, throw away the timepiece. I exist above the human concept of time.You’re in the right place at the right  time. Will you trust Me in this? “

“Write the vision and make it plain on tablets, that he may run who reads it. For the vision is yet for an appointed time; but at the end it will speak, and it will not lie. Though it tarries, wait for it; because it will surely come, it will not tarry” (Habakkuk 2:2–3).

Friend, in what area of your life are you relying on the Holy Spirit’s timeline instead of your own?

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  1. Sylvia Rogers   On   March 22, 2018 at 11:40 am

    Yes, I have found it easiest to simply submit to God. Trying to make anything happen in my own power is never as great as what He has in mind. He never wastes our talents and His plans are intact. You will never know the impact of your books until you reach heaven, where scores of people may be waiting to greet you with welcoming arms for the impact you made in their lives. We are a part of God’s harvest and we can rejoice in that. Keep watching for those doors of opportunity. They will open at the right time.

    • Lynn Hare   On   March 25, 2018 at 2:13 pm

      Sylvia, I love this part: “His plans are intact…” Yes! This is the year of open doors. I keep sensing that…I’m excited for God’s timing in that!

  2. Linda Jo Reed   On   March 22, 2018 at 1:26 pm

    Thanks, Lynn. Missing the bus has surely been my concern of late. But, thank you for the reminders that not only does our God have a plan for us, but that time belongs to Him as well. Resting. Resting.

    • Lynn Hare   On   March 25, 2018 at 2:15 pm

      Hi Linda Jo, yes, that’s totally a prophetic word about resting! I was planning to head north for spring break, but Jesus told me to stay back and rest instead…I need to enter into His promise: “Be still and know that I am God.” I sometimes wonder why we have to learn and relearn stuff again?

  3. Susan   On   March 24, 2018 at 8:06 pm

    Funny, but I used to have nightmares of missing my bus all the time… Even decades after I no longer took a bus… The scripture that comes to mind is: Philippians 1:6 New International Version (NIV)Being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.” He is faithful.

    • Lynn Hare   On   March 25, 2018 at 2:19 pm

      Susan, I love that verse! Completion until His day is a crazy-lovely good work! I bless your confidence in the timing of that completion, which, I figure is ongoing as we grow.

    • Lynn Hare   On   March 25, 2018 at 2:20 pm

      Thank you for your encouragement, Kelly! I bless you, your farm, and the Creator of the acres of land. I pray for your stewardship and increase of that land and Ecclesiastes timing for each season of growth!

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