A Good and Necessary Tension Part 2

Written by on May 24, 2013

Dog Abby #2“We must be careful that when tension occurs it does not become a friction. We take the issues that may potentially divide us and put them on one side. This is a time to renew our friendships, allowing the Holy Spirit to ease the friction. Yet we must remember that we cannot hold onto something in the Spirit without tension being present.” (Graham Cooke, Prophecy and Responsibility)

In our key relationships, our Heavenly Father, in His wisdom, ordains a good and necessary tension.

What do we need to do when there’s tension in our relationships?

1.) Seek fresh vision. In tears and discouraged in my marriage, business, and other relationships, I met with a pastor recently. He prayed for a moment, asking God for insight. Immediately he described an image he saw of an trained, equipped paratrooper wearing night gear, parachuting into enemy territory.

Aha! I thought. My apparent invisibility in this situation is an intentional cloaking so I can sneak up on the enemy in stealth mode.

Ask friends for an image of you amidst the tension.

2.) Ask God to define your needs. Are you putting expectations on others for needs that only God can meet? I did. In my conversations with friends, I found myself expecting  from them what only God can do: to consistently listen, provide focus and be the source of constant wisdom.

I asked the Lord, “How can I hear You more clearly?”
“Spend a day alone with me each month.”
“Okay, I’m in.”

Is God encouraging you to take more prime time to meet with Him so he can love on you and encourage you?

3.) Ask the Lord, “What shift is occurring here?” Assume “tension doesn’t necessarily mean something is wrong. It means that something is happening” (Graham Cooke). Like a guitar player running his fingers up and down the neck of a guitar, you’re changing notes (and maybe making it up as you go along). So what if it doesn’t come together like magic? God’s in it and loves the changes you’re making.

4.)  Seek and expect to find the opposite of what the enemy says to you. In the darkroom of your soul, the devil brandishes photo negatives and calls them done. But when God develops them, what’s black will become white. What’s yellow will be purple. What’s red will turn out green. It’s a simple scheme of deceit: playing  opposites.

When you hear the devil say, “This fear will destroy you,” know that  a calm peace is on its way. When he says, “You’re controlling,” I guarantee you’re on the verge of an absolute explosion of freedom in Christ.

(To be continued.)

Are you in conflict with others? I totally hope so. How’s our heavenly Father using a good and necessary tension in it?

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  1. Bernieta   On   May 29, 2013 at 8:18 pm

    I really enjoyed this reading and received insight into some things I have been dealing with also. I see you have had a break through and that’s great. I see that God is continually giving you wisdom and answers. I liked you saying you were going to spend some prime time with God which is something I am going to do also. Thank you for this reading, it was exactly what I needed to hear tonight!

    • Lynn Hare   On   May 30, 2013 at 5:57 pm

      Bernieta, thank you for your comment. Seems like just about everyone I know is experiencing tension with friends right now. I’m glad you’re going to spend more prime time with the Lord. I’ll pray for divine downloads!

  2. jane West   On   May 30, 2013 at 6:36 pm

    Thanks, Lynn, for another insightful blog. Yes, without tension, we couldn’t hold onto things. We’re told to hold fast to our confessoin of faith, hold fast the faithful word we’ve been taught, etc. We have to hold fast, because if we don’t the good things could be snatched away. Praise God He is so good to us!

  3. Dianne Donker   On   June 2, 2013 at 7:23 am

    Very nice blog site Lynn. Be encouraged as you encourage. God is definitely in ministry through you. Lv, di

  4. marc bettinger   On   June 6, 2013 at 8:53 am

    Our dear angel, I just returned home from a live changing conference in Phoenix and saw your post. Such wonderful thought giving and healing words. I was especially moved by #4 and the “darkroom of the mind”, where the negative images of the truth must be resisted so that God can reveal their true colors in his divine truths.
    Thank you for your light in the midst of the necessary darkness. Hugs, siempre abrazos de Cristo, tu hermano marco+

    • Lynn Hare   On   June 6, 2013 at 2:27 pm

      Thanks, Marc! I enjoyed your metaphor of bathing in waves of God’s redemption – and faith replacing doubts. Marc, you ALWAYS “pay it forward,” leaving good deposits in the “bank” of people’s souls. And thanks for the reminder to keep an eye on the larger purpose – His.

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