One Sunday morning, at church, I danced and twirled and worshiped, filled with childlike Jesus-joy.

But when the music ended and the speaker began, inwardly, I groaned. I loved the speaker but wanted my own chance to be up there on the platform.  Compared to their enormous following, mine was teensy. I wanted to be HEARD. 

Co-Co whispered in my heart, “Do you want to be an influencer in your field?”

“Yep!”

“Then here’s what to do.”

1.  Think brilliant, event-changing thoughts.
Co-Co showed me that when I think His thoughts, things happen! If I want to attract love, joy, and peace, I need to think love, joy, and peace. Every time I think a grateful thought, gratitude comes into focus, and with it, people who join me in expressing thanks. That includes loving and expressing gratitude to people who have a “bigger voice” than I have.

When we do that, we shift the atmosphere. The air becomes electrostatically charged with swishes filled with the power of love. Loads of times, I’ve swallowed my pride and approached speakers after they’ve spoken. I shared quiet words of what resonated and how the message encouraged me. I put a photo of their event on Facebook and told how the message impacted me.

Do I sometimes blow it? Yes. But when I fall off the bike, I mount it again, with faith that Jesus is giving me grace. 

2.  Speak power words. 

Romans 4:17 says, “We call what’s not as though it were.” Jesus invites us to get in sync with the resonant frequency of heaven.  We feel those sound waves “thrumming” in our hearts. Then we focus our thoughts.

When we focus our thoughts, they become words. When we focus our words, we release possibilities. Moving an event from possibility to actuality by expecting and speaking is called collapsing a quiff  in quantum physics. I love the power of expectancy!

So you’ll see me moving through my day murmuring, “Yes, that’s possible, too” or “I declare that I’m healed,” or “I’m a successful author.” I speak aloud my financial abundance. I’m convinced that I’m priming my bank accounts in the process.

People who activate possibilities with hope-filled expectation are called “possibilitarians.” What would happen if the earth were filled with us?

3.  Influencers serve and listen. They speak their audience’s language.

So—and this might run a bit counter-intuitive—if you want people to listen to you, you need to listen to them first.

When my now 28-year-old son, Andy, moved to Japan two years ago, I cried for months. He had lived at home up till then. I missed him. I wanted him to be close to me.

Andy had spoken fluent Japanese for ten years before he left. I knew no Japanese at all. Not even “hai” (yes) or “ie” (no). He shared a bit about his world, but sporadically.

But about three months ago, when I asked Andy to tutor me in Japanese—the language of his heart—he suddenly opened up. The good. The bad. The ugly. How things were going at the school where he teaches. Girlfriend news. Career path stuff.

Why did he open up? Likely because I was listening to him, validating him, and taking time to enter his space.

I sometimes blow it and talk more than I listen, but I work hard to make sure to give other people time to share, to connect, and to love along the way. 

If you take intentional time to be transformed by the renewing of your thoughts, you will find power words working their way into your spoken vision. When you listen and genuinely care about others, soon you will find them connecting with you more deeply.

And guess what? The next thing you know, you are several paces down the road, as a transformed influencer.

“Whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant” (Matt. 20:26).

Friend, what tips can you offer that will increase your impact and reach?